Film portrays casual sex in distorted light

By: Sanah Faroke / Contributing Writer

The film No Strings Attached portrays an uncommitted relationship as being glamorous and attractive. Such a relationship, if you can even classify it as such, only makes those involved believe that love can sprout from a twisted and incomplete lifestyle. In reality, one can never be satisfied with this “in-between” phase. As humans, we never are.

Conventional dating is usually how people find their way into a relationship. Within this time frame, getting to know, understand and grow on one another is nowhere remotely close to a dysfunctional and no truly passionate one night stand. The term “making love” has been reduced to “having sex,” considering that the lack of commitment and creativity in the air, leaves no room for actual love to develop.

Additionally, there is always the chance of having an unwanted pregnancy with a person who obviously does not want to be in a committed relationship. This has become an overlooked factor, especially the complications of payments for medical bills and child support, not to mention getting together “for the sake of the child,” abortion or adoption planning for a relationship that had no plan from the beginning of the affair.

There is also the probability of getting a sexually transmitted disease. This also may occur in a serious, committed relationship, but with the nonchalant routine an uncommitted relationship begets, there are more chances of catching an STD, especially if one of the casual partners is unaware of their condition.

Furthermore, heartbreak and obscurity are big factors in such a scenario, where it is hard to make the distinction between love or relative attraction. Clarity becomes foreign, your mind becomes fogged with confusion and you begin to lose sight of your actual desires.

No Strings Attached is one of those films that make audiences believe that a casual affair is okay and normal, but it is not. A ‘friends with benefits’ relationship cannot and will not work. To have a real relationship, you have to work at it and it might have the downfall of getting emotionally distraught and hurt, but it is worth trying, rather than having one night stands and be guaranteed heartache.

A ‘no strings attached’ relationship is an excuse to not have a real one, one that will last and grow into something that someone who settles for one-night-stands cannot comprehend.

3 Comments on "Film portrays casual sex in distorted light"

  1. Brooklyn Middleton | March 1, 2011 at 8:21 PM | Reply

    “No Strings Attached is one of those films that make audiences believe that a casual affair is okay and normal, but it is not. A ‘friends with benefits’ relationship cannot and will not work. To have a real relationship, you have to work at it and it might have the downfall of getting emotionally distraught and hurt, but it is worth trying, rather than having one night stands and be guaranteed heartache.”

    Okay, there is a difference between a well formed opinion and just stating what you think and making over generalizations and blanket statements with zero proof to back it up. You cannot assert that all “no strings attached” relationships are abnormal and “not okay.” That is ridiculous and showcases a total lack of understanding about the complexities of sex an intimacy. I’m sorry to shatter your worldview where everything is black and white, but, sometimes people have sex and they feel totally fine the next morning without it going anywhere. Sometimes people have sex without being in a committed relationship, and they are no worse off because of it. I can dig it if you want to make an entire argument about how YOU personally feel that sex outside of committed relationships is abnormal and/or dysfunctional. But you can’t assert it as fact, its far from it.

    • Is there need for proof, when making a normative claim? Maybe, instead, you mean reason. If so, it seems the writer provided some reasoning, the quality of which is a whole other argument.

  2. “Conventional dating is usually how people find their way into a relationship. Within this time frame, getting to know, understand and grow on one another is nowhere remotely close to a dysfunctional and no truly passionate one night stand. The term “making love” has been reduced to “having sex,” considering that the lack of commitment and creativity in the air, leaves no room for actual love to develop.”

    As Brooklyn points out, there are some generalizations and assumptions here, but lets dissect this. First, just because something is the way its usually done, does not speak for whether it is right or wrong. And to go along with what is usually done, especially because that is the standard practice, is conformity and that can be argued is the death of one’s self. But thats a whole other argument. One I would gladly pursue, if anyone wished.

    Anyway, lets see. ” Within this time frame, getting to know, understand and grow on one another is nowhere remotely close to a dysfunctional and no truly passionate one night stand. ”

    I guess you don’t consider love at first sight. Or relationships that progress rapidly for a variety of reasons including people “clicking.” Some people do have sex on the 3rd, 2nd, or even 1st date and continue dating and getting to know one another.

    “The term “making love” has been reduced to “having sex,” considering that the lack of commitment and creativity in the air, leaves no room for actual love to develop.”

    This is fascinating, and I don’t mean that condescendingly. First, terminology changes with time. Culture, society, blah blah. But even supposing its not due to that, you know that not everyone who has been in a relationship for a while (or even married) is in love, right? In that case, they are in fact not making love.

    And as far as love developing – this is great. See, not everyone believes that love can be grown or learned. People disagree, of course. This varies from culture to culture. The important thing is to recognize that some believe love can’t be groomed or developed. Now, if what you meant is that love needs a certain setting or conditions to come about: I don’t know for sure, but on my limited years on this earth I’ve heard all different kinds of “falling in love” stories and they varied quite a bit. I don’t know if certain conditions need to exist.

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