By: Lianamar Davila Sanabria/Columnist
If not automatically eliminating a guy from the running due to his age makes me a cougar then so be it. I can’t quite say I prefer younger men to older men yet, but as of late they’re looking like the better option.
About a year ago I got dubbed with a very fitting nickname: BP Lover. Since “cougar” usually refers to women twice my age dating men in my age range, it seemed appropriate to my friends.
Now if you think you’ve taken a really good guess at what it means, let me clarify this endearing term. Yes, it means “baby penis lover.” But I assure you it refers only to the age of the attached male, not the size of his manhood.
My first BP ever was only six months younger than me, so differences were hard to pinpoint. The most recent BP in my life is three years younger and our age difference can be very clear at times, usually only when we’re with our respective groups of friends. Most of the negative opinions are from outsiders once they find out our age gap, but we never cared and, honestly, we rarely even thought about our age difference.
But let’s not dwell on the cons when the pros can more than make up for them.
The thrill of being with a passionate, younger man can’t be understood until you just embrace it and go for it. Unlike older men that can get so caught up in the frustrations of their busy lives, BPs are usually more passionate about life and love and know how to balance it with fun. They’ll usually be more focused on establishing their lives and be appreciative to have hit the jackpot with an older, open-minded woman.
Depending on the depth of your shallowness, younger men can serve as wonderful eye candy with their perfectly toned bodies and their fresh, youthful faces. If you picked well, odds are he won’t have a beer gut and will still have all his hair.
The best perk to being with a BP is their willingness to please you. You can benefit from their loyalty and ambition to try new things. Not that they should have to prove anything to you, but they can’t help but feel they need to assure you of your decision to be with them in spite of the age difference.
These are obviously not true all across the board, but if you decide to embark on this new adventure make sure it will be advantageous for both of you and take it as an opportunity to learn from each other.
My BP and I are taking it slow for now since he’s starting a stage of his life I’m almost done with: college. I try to help him through his new experiences and motivate him to become the best he can be while he still has the chance. He reminds me that I need to take time for myself and that career chasing can be self-destructive if I’m not careful.
In the end, we will both benefit from meeting at the halfway point between our lives.
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