You can still find love in the hook up culture

By Joey Geballa

Being in my early twenties, I am typically doing what everyone should do when they’re 20; going out with friends until sunrise, attending parties and of course, being single and ready to mingle.

Growing up borderline obese and weighed down with insecurities as a pre-teen, I blossomed into my late teens and early twenties with confidence and a sense of free spirit within myself. Realizing this, I began to see nothing wrong in enjoying people in moments of mutual attraction.

In my close circle of friends, I am known as “that” friend. No, not the one who needs a night out or a bucket of ice cream every weekend to feel better about a fight with my boyfriend. I’m the friend you get loose in the club with until 4 a.m, mainly because I’m probably mingling and making out with a gentleman in the corner.

Before you ask, yes I “have fun” and I do so safely with a good head on my shoulders and a clear conscience. I am currently enjoying my singlehood to the fullest after a failed “situationship” in the last year. I am also blessed to be able hookup with 99.99 percent of most guys and not catch one feeling, maybe because I’m a Taurus. But this brings my question, does love still exist within this quickie culture we live in?

Love, can and does exist in the hookup culture. In fact, plenty of people who have had sex or done things of the sort on  first dates can end up in long lasting relationship. Tracy Cox, sex columnist from the DailyMail.com, reported a total of 640 adults in Chicago end up in long-term relationship or married even after sleeping together on the first date.

As you can tell, I have no problem with anyone getting their freak on. There is also not a problem in being real with your feelings with someone—just know the difference between infatuation and love. As a matter of fact, I recently had a similar experience. After meeting a guy, who lives out of state and has a busy life, we spent a weekend together which involved hooking up, and I definitely felt some type of way about it.

I thought to myself “I don’t want a boyfriend at all, I see guys for the only thing they’re good for at the moment, but he was more than that.” And as a Taurus, I don’t care about most people, but if I care for you or find a reason to be infatuated with you, I sure will do so. This experience was definitely different than any other hookup experience I’ve had. Most of my situations go something like: “get in here, get out of my apartment. No I am not walking you out, see you next time!”  Similar to how UberEats goes down—quick and convenient.

But after a few weeks of feeling down and missing the guy after he left, I realized it wasn’t what I thought it was and temporary feelings don’t determine the future, especially with someone else.

So, what did I do next? I kept doing what I do best and I just continue to live my life 100 percent for myself while enjoying some time with gentleman whenever I please. Shout out to everyone in relationships, but being young and single is where it is at. There is nothing wrong with having fun, mingling and getting intimate with someone; as long as it is done safely and with no strings attached.

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